Learning through people's experience i would say, it is a good show to watch..
There's one family which the husband always took care of the kids at home and the wife works fulltime. She leaves almost 90% of the house workloads,chores to the husband. So the husband took care of his very own daughter ( relationship with his ex wife) and 2 twins (boys) For 2 1/2 years since they were born. Now he wants to get a job and his wife (current) has to take care of the kids. And the mother of 3 children cannot handle on her own. The children wouldn't listen any orders at all and when they're crying, it kills her the most. Therefore she gave Popsicles and sweet things just to keep them quiet. The kids manipulate their mom by having fake tears. They know the weak points of their mom. and yada yada yada... whereas the husband is very strict towards the children and they listen to him.
The wife can't handle up to the 2nd day of the challenge (which is taking care of their children). Keep on blaming, complaining to the husband and asked him to quit the job. She thinks her husband can do the job much easier.
The husband asked his wife.
" Why do you think I did the job much easier?"
The wife
" Because you never complain anything about it "
The husband gets pissed.
" Oh, when i'm not complaining a single thing about the children,the workload in the house, you think it is easier for me? You never realise how hard it is for me until you have to do all of these things all by your own. It is my responsibility to take care of my kids & family, why should i complain anything about it? You're just selfish. The responsibility, workload is just the same, you did not noticed that.... "
The nanny gave some tips :
- Every good deeds the children did, a reward will be given to their personal boxes and if they did not accomplish on what their parents asked to do, the reward will be pulled out.
- No dessert / sweet things before bed time (change them into fruits, or healthier stuffs) - the wife doesn't even know that donuts are sugars! - or else they have difficulty to sleep.
- To toilet train them, do not feed them with bottles when they're off to bed, provide straw bottle if they wanted to drink.
- 7.30pm / 8pm is the time for children to sleep (No watching TV with them)
- If possible, let them sleep by themselves, separate bedrooms or whatever. They will cry for a couple of days, but it is good when they can have their space.
- Differentiate between manipulative fake tears and the real tears.
- Spent time with the children and share the loads of your spouse in the house. It is never an easy job.
So the moral of the story : If people did their job straight away , without complaining.. doesn't mean it is much EASIER for them. They think that it is a responsibility to get the job done.
STOP COMPLAINING! Think of Solutions.
Byk Birthdays for september! : And i have been thinking some beneficial pressies to my darling sisters / brothers. Beneficial. *Which i will get it one for me. It's just worth to buy. Nak tau apa? Tunggguuuuuuuuuuuuu!!!!!
Less than a week, raya.... my fiance went for window shopping and ask me what i want to buy for raya. Then my mouth popped out with an anwer " Ala baju kebarung labuh ke, jubah ke.... and that same shop there's a graduation robe. Ha, I belikan lah ni lah.. baru cara! Ahahahahhaha.. orang lain duk bagi duit raya, I bagi sijil la ye.. baru la konvo style! :), still hati sayu thinking of dad..
Anyways, i didnt get anything for raya yet... Malas pulak nak beli... tengok guna mata je la... nanti tgk mood lah. or saving for another 6 months! Walauweeehhhhh 6 months je lagi.. :)) and we're working on it okay! and harap harap la proposals projects jadi, amiiin. doa yang baik baik untuk kami ye? terima kasih!
I would fancy "TURQOISE & SILVER" for wed. materials (just planning saje)
Silvers Pastel / Grayish / White / Brownish Pastels/Darker Green Turqouise for Bridesmaids , Families & Kids. Kalau ada rezeki lebih.
Mommy likes the combination.
House so far,
Kitchen cabinet.
Lamps.
Awning.
Electrical appliances.
And one wall site for my photo canvas!
Working on it. All by mommy's choice. Mommy siap sketching lagi. Cayalah! *thumbs up*
3 comments:
Wah dah ada colour theme. I like the combination.
Shat, you should make you wed folder. sort like scrapbook. Kalau jumpa mana gambar2 yg berkenan & sesuai utk wed tu..kalau boleh gunting, just cut it and put in the folder. Lepas tu every single thing such as checklist, invoice and etc. letak dlm folder. Trust me, even the checklist is so tedious you will be thankful when you're just a week or a month away from the wed. nanti karang ada yg terlupa nak beli
weehoo! betul jugak kan? resit, invoice.. check list.... boleh chunk in one place..thank you for reminding!! gmbr berkenan ada la tp sume dok save dlm folder computer,haha..should paste it baru la nampak kan.should do that ASAP
bestlah colour yg dipilih sgt unik
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