- not treating 'em like a 24 months old baby.
- listen what she was saying...her thoughts..her sadness.. her dilemma and try to give solution
- appreciate what she was doing, contributing and so on... just bare in mind, other kids does not have the same path as 'em, be grateful for what they did..
- thank 'em by the by the bottom of your heart, not just saying through you lips.. body language tells a lot than your words...
- tell her the logical reasons to do what you ask 'em to do... not just simply dictate
- be considerable and giver 'em space to live their own life ( at least, they learn how to manage theirs without regretting they never even try " Oh well, at least I tried......."
- enjoy together with them... yeah together!
- ask them whether their expectation as high as yours..
- be independent as they can be with your guidance..by not controlling them cuz, u'll never know how great they can be if they can think for themselves hence they appreciate others pretty well :)
- not to think to have the same (i mean EXACTLY the same) life as ours.... its a NO! NO!
and not to forget...
if i have a 24 year old kid....
- i'll make sure they experienced difficulties so they appreciate people around them that will help them become a real human..
p/s : - and I think.... marriage program should insert parenting and childhood psychology Not just telling about keintiman suami isteri which akhirnya penceramah syok sendiri, which ppl get BORED with it!!!! ppl needs real education yo!.how to manage a family overall, so we are mentally prepared, at least to have kids... dont make them wasting time teaching about biological aspects between two humans... thats so lame.
the world is evolving, turning fast... get the pace babeh!! ... were living in 2K era with 10 years Ahead, ..catch my drift., no?
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